Sex: Good, Babies: Bad

By Kortney Blythe

This mindset seems to be common in the pro-death camp.
Take, for instance, this quote by Elisabeth Garber-Paul in an article on the rise in sexual activity during this economic recession: “So join the rest of America in this exciting new trend. Save money, stay in, have sex—just don’t make a baby.”
That’s right, Elisabeth, throw respect for yourself out the window and spit in the face of God by removing one of his intentions for intercourse. More babies will just make the economy worse, right? Wrong. In fact, one of the reasons we are even in this recession is because of the plummeting birthrate. There simply aren’t enough people to replace the retiring population in the workplace and pay for Social Security, or to stimulate the economy.
Not that you’ll hear about that from the anti-human, overpopulation zealots. But do your research. Watch Demographic Winter  and Demographic Bomb, two documentaries which debunk the overpopulation myth and ask a very important question: Is it possible we have been failed by the very ideas we thought could save us?

It goes without saying that abortion advocates think saving sex for marriage is ludicrous and archaic. Just check out the title of a book just released by radical feminist Jessica Valenti: The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity is Hurting Young Women

In an interview on the rabidly pro-abortion RH Reality Check web site, Valenti purports that teaching and honoring purity is just as dangerous as the media’s “pressure on sexuality and the hypersexualization of women.” Oh, really? So, protecting young people from the heartbreak and emptiness of premarital sex, not to mention a load of sexually transmitted diseases, is akin to the objectification of women, the result of which has been a generation of depressed, confused girls with eating disorders?

She goes on to say, “The purity myth is so embedded in our culture and our psyches… You don’t have to be forcing your daughter to take a virginity pledge in order for the fiction of virginity to affect your life.” Really? Then why does every Hollywood film end (or begin) with a couple jumping into bed together? If it’s so “embedded” in our culture, then why are abortion, STD and teen pregnancy rates so high? (I’m not going to even legitimize her term “fiction of virginity” with a response).

As if that isn’t enough, in Greensboro, North Carolina, a new program is paying high school girls to not get pregnant. That’s right. For every day they stay baby-free, $1 is deposited into an account to be used for college. According to a local TV news report, the group was founded by Hazel Brown, “a maternity nurse who thought too many teens were having babies.”

Ms. Brown, how about seeing the root of the problem? Too many teens are having premarital sex. The problem is not the presence of a baby, but the actions of his mother and father, which resulted in his existence.

The three goals of this program, called College Bound Sisters, are for the girls to “avoid pregnancy, graduate from high school and enroll in college,” Brown said. Oh, what lofty goals we have for our young people!

Teenagers rise to the expectations that are set for them. If all we ask is that they avoid pregnancy (and we’ll even pay them for that!), what are we teaching girls about sex, relationships, the value of children or personal responsibility, for that matter?

Instead of urging purity and self-control, and demonstrating the joys of a quiver full of children (Psalm 127:3-5) within marriage, this program bribes young girls. If those same girls were taught basic biblical morality, they wouldn’t be having sex, and thus, there would be no chance of pregnancy.

The message of this program in a nutshell: Go ahead and sin against God by having damaging premarital sex, but just make sure you avoid one of the outcomes: babies.

If only young people knew the joy and blessings they are missing out on when they use sex for purely physical and selfish reasons! Then, and only then, they would cherish chastity as it should be cherished.

To my single friends reading this, please flee from this deadly mentality of me-first, pleasure-seeking sex without consequences. Seek righteousness, pursue holiness and practice chastity.
“But understand this: There will be terrifying times in the last days. People will be self-centered and lovers of money, proud, haughty, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, irreligious, callous, implacable, slanderous, licentious, brutal, hating what is good, traitors, reckless, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, as they make a pretense of religion but deny its power. Reject them.” (2 Timothy 3:1-5)


Kortney Blythe is the chapter and street teams coordinator for American Life League’s Rock for Life project, which brings the human personhood message to youth through music, education and human rights activism. This commentary originally appeared in the July 2, 2009 issue of the RFL Report.